BPD Favorite Person Test

Being deeply connected to someone with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be an intense and emotionally complex experience. 

If you've found yourself in a relationship where you feel simultaneously idealized and criticized, deeply needed yet occasionally pushed away, you may be wondering if you're a "favorite person" to someone with BPD. 

This unique dynamic can be both flattering and overwhelming, often leaving you unsure of where you stand in the relationship. This article aims to help you explore and understand this complex role through both a quiz and example scenarios. From here, you can better understand if the patterns you're experiencing align with being a favorite person to someone with BPD.

Remember, seeking understanding is an important first step towards maintaining your own emotional health while supporting your loved one. 

Regardless of the quiz results, we're here to provide resources and connect you with professional help if you feel you need it.

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At Best Therapists, we believe that online mental health quizzes can be an excellent first step towards improving our mental health. Quizzes like this one can educate you and provide opportunities for self-reflection, but note that they are not a substitute for professional assessments and diagnoses.

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Example scenarios of being the favorite person of someone with BPD

• Alex receives a job offer in another city. When he tells his friend Sarah, who has BPD, she initially congratulates him. However, within minutes, her mood shifts dramatically. She becomes tearful, accusing Alex of abandoning her and claiming she can't live without him. She alternates between begging him to stay and angrily telling him he never cared about her. Alex feels overwhelmed with guilt and responsibility for Sarah's emotional state.
• Emma is in a relationship with Tom, who has BPD. One evening, she doesn't respond to his texts for a few hours because she's at a family dinner. When she finally checks her phone, she finds dozens of increasingly frantic messages from Tom, ranging from declarations of love to accusations of betrayal. When Emma calls him, Tom is overjoyed to hear from her but also berates her for "disappearing." Emma finds herself constantly on edge, feeling responsible for managing Tom's emotions.
• Mike is the coworker of Lisa, who has BPD. Lisa often confides in Mike, treating him as her closest confidant at work. One day, another colleague compliments Mike's work. Lisa overhears this and becomes visibly upset. For the next few days, she alternates between desperately seeking Mike's attention and giving him the cold shoulder. She makes comments about Mike "abandoning" her for other coworkers. Mike feels confused and stressed, unsure how to navigate the situation without upsetting Lisa further.

Disclaimer: These examples are fictional scenarios created for illustrative and informational purposes only. They do not represent real individuals but are designed to depict typical experiences of people who might be the favorite person of someone with BPD. These examples should not be used for self-diagnosis. If you have concerns about your own experiences, please consult with a qualified mental health professional.