Is My Mother-in-Law a Narcissist Quiz

Family is important, but family relationships can be challenging, especially with in-laws. 

You might find yourself questioning your mother-in-law's behavior, wondering if her actions are simply a personality quirk or something more. 

If you're feeling unheard, unseen, or emotionally drained after interacting with her, it's important to explore the possibility of narcissistic behavior. 

This quick quiz can help you identify some common signs and get you one step closer to a healthier relationship with your mother-in-law–and a happier you.

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Example narcissistic scenarios

Here are some structured examples of scenarios where your mother-in-law might be exhibiting narcissistic tendencies:

Scenario 1 → The competitive critic

• The situation: You're preparing a celebratory dinner for your partner and their family. You're excited about a new recipe you found.
• The narcissistic twist: As you cook, your mother-in-law makes subtle criticisms about the ingredients or preparation. She might mention a similar dish she makes "much better" or constantly compare your skills to hers, leaving you feeling discouraged and judged.

Scenario 2 → The boundary-stomper

• The situation: You and your partner are discussing plans for decorating your new home. You have specific ideas and preferences.
• The narcissistic twist: Your mother-in-law inserts herself into the conversation, offering unsolicited advice and pressuring you to follow her tastes or preferences. She disregards your boundaries as a couple and seems more interested in controlling the design than respecting your vision.

Scenario 3 → The master manipulator

• The situation: You and your partner have a minor disagreement about finances.
• The narcissistic twist: Your mother-in-law sides with your partner immediately, regardless of the details of the argument. She might subtly bad-mouth you to them later, exaggerating the situation and manipulating the dynamic to create further conflict.

Scenario 4 → The information black hole

• The situation: You share exciting news about a promotion at work. You're feeling proud and accomplished.
• The narcissistic twist: Your mother-in-law seems uninterested in your news. She might offer a half-hearted congratulations before quickly changing the subject to talk about herself or her recent achievements, showing minimal to no genuine excitement for your success.

Scenario 5: The gift-giver with strings attached

• The situation: It's your birthday, and your mother-in-law presents you with a beautiful and expensive piece of jewelry.
• The narcissistic twist: Throughout the day, she constantly reminds you of the gift and how much it cost. She might subtly suggest ways you should wear it or use it as leverage to ask for special favors or treatment in return, creating an obligation and undermining the genuine nature of the gift.