Selfish Spouse Test

We understand how difficult and emotionally draining it can be when you feel like your spouse is selfish. 

The constant feeling of being unappreciated, unsupported, and even neglected by the person you love most can take a heavy toll on your mental well-being. 

It's natural to question whether your partner's behavior is truly selfish or if you're being too sensitive. If you find yourself wondering, "Is my spouse selfish?" you're not alone. 

Many people struggle with this question, and it's essential to address these concerns for the sake of your own happiness and the health of your relationship. 

This simple quiz is designed to help you gain clarity on your situation and provide guidance on the next steps to take for your well-being and relationship.

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Example Scenarios of a Selfish Spouse

Financial Selfishness

• Your spouse spends money on expensive personal items but refuses to contribute to household expenses or joint savings.
• Your partner makes significant financial decisions without consulting you or considering your opinion.
• Your spouse consistently borrows money from you but never pays it back.

Emotional Selfishness

• Your partner consistently prioritizes their own feelings and needs over yours, disregarding your emotional well-being.
• Your spouse dismisses or invalidates your feelings when you try to express them.
• Your partner refuses to compromise or make sacrifices for the sake of your relationship.

Time and Attention Selfishness

• Your spouse consistently chooses to spend their free time on personal hobbies or with friends, leaving little to no quality time for your relationship.
• Your partner is always on their phone or device, ignoring you or not being present when you're together.
• Your spouse cancels plans with you last minute to do something they prefer instead.

Household Responsibilities Selfishness

• Your partner refuses to contribute to household chores, leaving you to handle all the responsibilities.
• Your spouse expects you to cater to their needs without reciprocating or showing appreciation.
• Your partner consistently leaves messes for you to clean up without taking responsibility.

Career and Goals Selfishness

• Your spouse makes career decisions that impact both of you without considering your input or needs.
• Your partner consistently prioritizes their own goals and aspirations over your shared goals or your individual dreams.
• Your spouse expects you to make sacrifices for their career advancement but is unwilling to do the same for you.

Intimacy and Affection Selfishness

• Your partner consistently prioritizes their own sexual needs and desires over yours.
• Your spouse withholds affection or physical touch as a form of punishment or manipulation.
• Your partner refuses to engage in meaningful conversations or emotional intimacy, focusing only on physical intimacy.

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These scenarios illustrate various ways in which a spouse can exhibit selfish behavior. It's important to note that occasional selfish actions may not necessarily indicate a consistently selfish spouse. 

However, if these behaviors are persistent and causing significant distress in your relationship, it may be helpful to address the issue with your partner or seek professional guidance.